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There are just some things we do easier and faster than our ADHD spouse. In the past, it was hard for my ADHD spouse to ask for help for various reasons, like shame, concern about how I would think of him, and simply not knowing when to ask for help. Over time, as we worked on repairing our relationship and focused on positive communication (e.g., avoiding passive-aggressive behavior and making assumptions), it became easier for him to reach out for help. For me, I learned to make the experience a positive one for him, further breaking down his barriers to not only asking but also accepting help from me. For example, when I ask if he needs help, he often thanks me for the gesture before giving an answer. This is far better than before, when I often received a "no" as I watched him storm away. While there are still instances where he asks for assistance as a last resort, overall, I find that he is progressing faster on work and home projects than before.

Does this resonate with your experience? How do you and your ADHD spouse navigate asking for and offering help? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments below! Let's learn from each other!